Listen now (46 min) | In episode 2 of cosmic cheer squad, Chris and bee catch up on haircuts, head coverings, and how personal style reflects deeper transformation. What starts as a light-hearted exchange about hair quickly opens into deeper stories: gender, identity, music, trauma, and the ways we rewrite our narratives to reclaim agency.Along the way, they talk about:Finding a new hairstylist (and the emotional labor of hair)Misgendering, identity, and expression through styleRap, rebellion, and rewriting your soundtrackThe weird things we thought adulthood would feel likeChanging how we relate to our past (and our parents)Emotional quicksand, mashed potatoes, and why bee is a GravitronLearning to like ourselves and speak kindly inside our own headsThis is a tender, funny, and unflinchingly real conversation about growing into who we are, and letting joy sneak in, even when life is messy.
Some notes from when I listened a while back (a few things happened on the way to the forum):
1. The "femme version of Mr. Rogers." Brilliant. We need this. Bee has a way with language.
2. I appreciate your discussion of how our perspectives regarding our parents can change as we ourselves age. As humans, whether we are conscious of it or not, we are trying to make sense of our lives (which is why autoethnography is so fascinating as a concept). The stories we tell ourselves are important. What may serve us when younger may not when older. The hard part can be knowing when to change the story.
Stephanie Pace Marshall has said: “When we change the story, we change the map; when we change the map, we change the landscape; when we change the landscape, we change our experiences and our choices; when we change our experiences and our choices, we can change our minds, and when we change our minds, we can change the world. Mind-shaping is world-shaping. We must become the story we seek to tell.” To start, you must walk through a doorway.
Thresholds: Walking through a doorway means to change your perspective. Intentionally doing so (which may require great bravery and vulnerability) can mean initiating a journey of self-knowledge and healing. Dare we?
In an episode of Krista Tippet's On Being podcast, Katsi Cook notes “There is what happened to us, and there is who we are.” (spoken by Jose at a meal the previous evening). Food for thought that may especially resonate with our community.
Great hangoutcast :) I don't think I can handle carnival rides these days. The last time I was on a bicycle seemed surprisingly almost too much of a thrill lol. When I was a kid I liked the "enterprise" (I think that's what it was called). Like a ferris wheel that goes upside down.
I want to learn how to layer my hair. I just make a pony tail under my chin and cut it off haha. It's not the best look :P
Have not been on a ride in ... Wow. Can not remember the last time! My younger two are about old enough (and tall enough!) to go on the big kid tall enough to ride this ride rides and I'm eager to see if I can handle em now 🤣
No advice about layers, the last I had enough hair for a pony tail, I had a perm and banana clips 🙈🤣
Alternate title: how to make small talk big talk ;)
Some notes from when I listened a while back (a few things happened on the way to the forum):
1. The "femme version of Mr. Rogers." Brilliant. We need this. Bee has a way with language.
2. I appreciate your discussion of how our perspectives regarding our parents can change as we ourselves age. As humans, whether we are conscious of it or not, we are trying to make sense of our lives (which is why autoethnography is so fascinating as a concept). The stories we tell ourselves are important. What may serve us when younger may not when older. The hard part can be knowing when to change the story.
Stephanie Pace Marshall has said: “When we change the story, we change the map; when we change the map, we change the landscape; when we change the landscape, we change our experiences and our choices; when we change our experiences and our choices, we can change our minds, and when we change our minds, we can change the world. Mind-shaping is world-shaping. We must become the story we seek to tell.” To start, you must walk through a doorway.
Thresholds: Walking through a doorway means to change your perspective. Intentionally doing so (which may require great bravery and vulnerability) can mean initiating a journey of self-knowledge and healing. Dare we?
In an episode of Krista Tippet's On Being podcast, Katsi Cook notes “There is what happened to us, and there is who we are.” (spoken by Jose at a meal the previous evening). Food for thought that may especially resonate with our community.
3. Ominous positivity. More great wordsmithing!
Ms.Rogers, with a sailors mouth 🙈🤠
A few things happen on the way to the forum, indeed!
I yam what I yam! 🍠
Great hangoutcast :) I don't think I can handle carnival rides these days. The last time I was on a bicycle seemed surprisingly almost too much of a thrill lol. When I was a kid I liked the "enterprise" (I think that's what it was called). Like a ferris wheel that goes upside down.
I want to learn how to layer my hair. I just make a pony tail under my chin and cut it off haha. It's not the best look :P
Thank you, Jen! ✨
I feel similarly about no longer being up for carnival rides, although I’d probably still end up on a few if I had the chance. 😅
In 2017, I went on some rides at Elitch Gardens in Denver, and I remember feeling shocked by how battered I felt after the roller coaster. 🎢
Have not been on a ride in ... Wow. Can not remember the last time! My younger two are about old enough (and tall enough!) to go on the big kid tall enough to ride this ride rides and I'm eager to see if I can handle em now 🤣
No advice about layers, the last I had enough hair for a pony tail, I had a perm and banana clips 🙈🤣